TOXIC...

Greetings -

This was originally published on Friday August 6, 2010 on alternate blog www.eaglelionflame.blogspot.com which is on hiatus until further notice. Please, my "Followers," register on this blog as you did on the alternate blog. This is a back up plan against the wiles of the Devil. Thank you for your love and indulgence.

The post is a repeat post - however, since then, an additional comment came in from Susie.  I will post here below the repeat post, Susie's comments:  (for those who want to skip what they have already read and go straight to Susie's comments, I will post her comments in blue italic.)

Topic: "RID OF TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS" 

Soon I will write a lengthy piece on this which may or may not be posted on my blog. The topic is “Death of Toxic Relationships.”


Recently the Lord led me to sever a relationship with a Christian who has lust for a man and/or husband, among other things. I will call her Dee (not her real name). Dee and I had been in contact for about 2 years. I love Dee and have been ministered to by her and also ministered to her. We have prayed for and helped each other. But her constant complaining spirit about her lack of male companionship and job woes began to become toxic to my spirituality.


Dee made a choice to disregard what the Holy Spirit has told her through me and through others who care. Weeks ago, Dee was informed that she is in a place of rebellion against the Lord. When I spoke with her last week, she elected to remain in that place.


We all have our moments of stubbornness against the will of our Lord. Our Father instructs us not to allow sin to reign in our mortal bodies nor to allow sin to have dominion. May GOD help us all. Please pray for Dee to forsake rebellion.


Last week the Lord told me to cease to engage with Dee. When I notified her, I felt spiritual release and relief. The relationship had become toxic. Our Father gave me Romans 16:17, “Now I beseech you, brethren, mark them which cause divisions and offences contrary to the doctrine which ye have learned; and avoid them.”


Some people resist the help that we offer/render. We ourselves likely have resisted help. There are times when we need to love people and leave them to GOD. To “save” ourselves, those measures can be necessary. We are told by our Lord to work out our own salvation with fear and trembling.

It can be spiritually liberating to forsake relationships that impede what our Lord is doing within us.


Prayer:
Father, in the name of Jesus, please help us to love You more than anything and anyone. Lead us, Holy Father, to seek first Your awesome kingdom. Teach us to know what is acceptable to You for Your glory and for the best interest of Your will. We are not our own, Lord. We belong to You, above all. Help us, please, to love others but not at the sacrifice of our loyalty to You and Your precepts. Also, Lord, please help us to forgive as that is Your Word. If we do not forgive, we cannot receive forgiveness from You.


Inform us of the relationships that we need to retain and those that we must sever. We need Your discernment to make the holy choices that bring You joy, pleasure and delight.

Thank you, Lord – Amen.


Copyright 2010

Susie's comments:

This is so true. I had to end my relationship with a woman who I have been friends with since we were 6 years old. Not only does she kid herself and lie, but she talked about me so badly to others behind my back, that it caused her sister to send me attack emails a few months ago. I had known that Debbie had a "gossip" problem, but I had no idea that she was gossiping about me in a way that was full of lies, to make me look bad. She would be real nice to me on the phone, and then tell others bad things about me. Longevity is no reason to keep an enemy posing as a friend. I love Debbie, but she has sunk so low, that I can't consider her my friend or sister in Christ anymore. She works for Satan now. I will keep her in prayer.


I understand though, that if a relationship is toxic, we must let them go. Like God told Abraham, "Let the dead bury the dead, you come with me". Abraham wanted to bury his father before he moved on where God wanted him to go. In other words, stay with his family until his dad died. But Abraham was being called away from them, because they didn't serve God like he did. With God, blood ISN'T thicker than water. Jesus said "my mother and brothers are those who do the will of my Father." You and I are more "family" than our own blood relatives, Sandra. At least as far as God is concerned. Ya know?


We cannot allow anyone to keep us from advancing with God. If they aren't on the same page as us, or, they aren't working to get there, it's like throwing weight overboard so our ship doesn't sink. 

Copyright Susie 2010