Greetings -
NOTE: This post may be somewhat rough because presently I am NOT taking time to finesse it. I may return and modify this later. Please bear with me because I am presently in a place of righteous indignation. Some of you may wonder why I do not wait...because the Lord instructed me to do this now.
Sometimes no matter how much we love people with words, expressions, gestures, etc. they are intent on missions to malign, discredit and criticize. Indeed we are mandated to love but today the Lord mandated me to lovingly but firmly inform someone that they are coming from a place of bitterness and not representative of love. This particular person who attacked me, via e-mail, yesterday and this a.m., is a relative who professes to be a Christian. I have, on a number of occasions, ignored her attacks and/or attempted to, with love, smooth things over relative to our communications. I have asked her forgiveness when I have been clear that I have been wrong. She does NOT acknowledge my requests for forgiveness but readily expresses displeasure when she believes that I have faltered. This has went on for about 2 years. She, let her tell it, is "never" wrong. To her, it is with regularity, a malfunction with me. Her attacks on me yesterday and this a.m. were with the use of scriptures. The Lord let me know that said scripture usage was not of Him.
Now I know that we all falter but there is no way that I am always wrong. I am receptive to constructive criticism because we all need it. When people use it in excess, that is NOT decently and in order. Nor is it in order when there is more criticism than encouragement. But today, the Lord told me - enough. I e-mailed to her what He told me to say. In essense, the Lord told me to express to her that He is delighted with me and that when He is not, He clearly lets me know.
Afterwards, the Lord confirmed to me that I am not wrong relative to this matter. He went further and led me to Sharon's blog (sharonsharinggod.blogspot.com) where she placed a post this a.m. that ideally addressed what the Lord had told me. The topic is "I GIVE YOU MY WORD." What Sharon posted further confirmed what the Lord had expressed to me. I commented on Sharon's blog about it and thanked her for posting it and thanked the Lord that it was posted.
Afterwards, my relative sent me another bitter-in-tone e-mail. I did not respond and am not sure that I am going to.... Indeed, I love her but may need to, for however long, love her, pray, and leave her alone.
Note: As I was writing this, another Christian relative phoned me to cancel a day trip excursion that we had planned for tomorrow. This date was planned about a month ago. She phoned to tell me that she, instead, is going to shampoo her carpets tomorrow, etc. I informed her that we had been planning this for about a month and she tells me the day before that she is not going! I further informed her that that was inconsiderate. She said that she was sorry...my spirit did NOT bear witness about the "sorry."
Please pray for us...for me because I am NOT feeling smooth right now.
Lord, please help us all!
After posting this...I will go pray and read the Word....JESUS, PLEASE!!!
Note: I spoke to a dear friend of mine this a.m. after my first relational episode, and she mentioned that sometimes non-family members treat you better than family. She went on to relate how her brother disappoints...
Note: The Lord reminded me of a quote that a friend of mine gave me years ago, it is:
Don't let unjust treatment take you hostage.
Please pray!!!
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Hi Sis,
ReplyDeleteI'll be praying. The enemy doesn't like what you're doing and is attacking you to distract and discourage you from God's work. You're on the right track.
I pray that God will comfort you and give you the wisdom, discernment and courage to follow through with what he instructs you to do in this situation. STAND in humility and in His strength. Be as wise as a serpent but as gentle as a dove. Finally, remember that love covers a multitude of sins. It's not always about who's right and who's wrong, but as far as it lies within you, seek peace.
The Lord be with you to comfort and guide you through. In Jesus' name. Amen.
Sandra - I'm so glad that God's Word spoke to you this morning. This is such a difficult and delicate situation you're in. I've discovered that most of the time when I get angry at someone, it's really because I've been hurt by them. Sometimes when they don't apologize, I just have to take my wounded heart to the Lord and let Him heal it. I don't ever want bitterness to take root in me. I agree with Beverly's comments above. Asking God for HIS wisdom and discernment is key.
ReplyDeleteA couple of verses that come to mind:
"Don't act thoughtlessly, but understand what the Lord wants you to do." (Ephesians 5:9)
"Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise." (Philippians 4:8)
"Watch your tongue and keep your mouth shut, and you will stay out of trouble." (Proverbs 21:23)
OK, this last verse wasn't personally directed at you (not at all!) - but I included it because it reminded me of something my mom once said:
"Sometimes the best response is NO response!"
I'll be praying for you - I know God will provide a clear answer on what to do...
GOD BLESS, Sandra - always!
Greetings -
ReplyDeleteThis was sent to me, via e-mail, from Karen:
4:57 PM
I think we have all been there - with either righteous or just regular indignation. I have been upset this week when I have confronted two people who were definitely in the wrong, but they will not accept responsibility. I kept pushing when I should have let it go, and I spoke truth in anger instead of love.
So yes, we all need prayer - we are all human and we all have other humans in our lives. We could all use a little smoothing around the edges.
From one diamond in the rough to another,
Karen
Sandra, I pray that you'll be able to walk in peace without harboring any offence despite your family member's actions. I like that quote.
ReplyDeleteGreetings -
ReplyDeleteThank you all for your wise and helpful comments. Gratitude is extended to you all.
@ Beverly
You said, "It's not always about who's right and who's wrong...seek peace" How true that is and after I read that from you, the Lord had me to go seek peace from someone else and it was successful...
@ Sharon
You are right, we do not want "bitterness to take root..." Bitterness is sin and sin separates from GOD, and certainly we do not desire to be separated from our LIFE SOURCE!
@ Karen
Yes indeed, "We could all use a little smoothing around the edges" as you stated.
@ Wanda
Thank you...I had my "moment," weeped...went to the Lord in the Word, and HE spoke...peace, and words that told me to show mercy...for He is merciful. He also reminded me that people are bound by the demonic. Waves of pity came over me for those who are bound...then cries out to GOD for Him to help them.
Lord, please help us all!
One last comment on this if you don't mind Sandra. Something was nagging me in the back of my mind in reference to your plea today, but I had a hectic day. Here's the passage that was trying to get through:
ReplyDelete"Consider it pure joy, my brothers, when you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the stesting of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything," James 1:2-4.
Think it not strange that fiery trials come. Think it strange if they don't.:-)
I'm sure you passed the test and grew stronger as a result. More's a comin! But God is with us and has a plan.
God Bless you!
I see the typo but don't know how to go back and fix it. :-)
ReplyDeleteHi Beverly -
ReplyDeleteThank you for that apt scripture...yes, I say often, "...count it all joy" but some "moments"
we are like Paul in Romans 7:19, "...For the good that I would I do not:..."
Thankfully, I got with the Lord today after my "episodes." Then I posted, "MY SOUL SHALL MAKE HER BOAST IN THE LORD"
Hi Sandra,
ReplyDeleteI'll be praying that God will strengthen you as you deal with this difficult situation.
If Satan can't attack you or your property, he will put spells on your friends & family to let them harass you. Try deliverance, prayer and blessing for all family members and friends. Is this not persecution?
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